Book: Not Being

My first book, Not Being, is out, co-authored with the respectable Steven D’Souza.

Our thesis: For too long, we have bought into the myth of separation; the story that we each win or lose through the relentless pursuit of self-improvement, achieving personal and organizational goals and increasing consumerism. This has led us to be more lonely, exhausted, and disconnected than ever, with a devastating impact on our personal lives, families, communities, organizations, and the planet.

Not Being invites us to be curious about a different way of life, where we are interconnected, interdependent with each other and our environment; no longer fragmented but whole. It invites us to transition from a selfie culture to a selfless one that is radically inclusive of the other. We need to relinquish narrow ideas about who we are, to discover and embrace a wider identity. We are part of something much bigger than any of us.


It has been a very worthwhile collaboration with my co-author Steven. Fun fact: we never met in person until a year after the book is out! Yet both said yes to a bold, risky endeavor. Here’s a podcast with both of us sharing about it.

We are grateful to have the legendary and wise elder Chip Conley to write us the forewords, as well as many other endorsements from people we respect, including Daniel Pink, Richard Leider and Brother David Steindl-Rast.


This book is something that will take my lifetime to live by. Let me end this page with the quote that also ends the book.

We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. T. S. Eliot.